Monday, May 7, 2012

8 Years Ago Today

My daughter, Abby, was born 8 years ago today. Here's her birth story.

Abigail is our third baby. I waited patiently with her birth. I was due on April 30. Well, April 30 came and went, and I continued to wait for her. On May 7, I knew I was in labor all day but didn't say anything to Brent until I was getting somewhat uncomfortable. Her labour was the very best of all of them thus far. We were staying with a group in Independence Missouri. I was in the kitchen area with Brent and some of the women there. I remember how we were all talking and laughing. One of them (who had just had her baby a week earlier) asked me how far apart my contractions were. I casually looked at the clock and when I timed it, I said they were 2 minutes apart. She then got somewhat frantic and said Brent and I needed to leave for the hospital (it was about 30 minutes away). One of the other women (who was a nurse) laughed and said we knew when we should leave, and that we would be fine. Shortly after that, Brent and I got in the car and went to the hospital. Our friends there said they would watch Sadie and Hannah, since it was the middle of the night, and they were sound asleep.

I didn't have any pains until I got into the car. Sitting still, and knowing I was going to the hospital, stressed my body and cause the contractions to become almost unbearable. I had Brent keep the radio on, and I sang the entire way to the hospital, except when I couldn't due to a contraction.

When we got to the hospital, Brent parked the car and helped me into the emergency room area. I was in so much pain that I was cramped into a doubled over position, and couldn't stand upright. The nurses led me into an observation room, put me in bed and hooked up monitors to see where I was at. I'm not exactly sure how long I was in there. It felt like hours, but was probably closer to 20-30 minutes. The nurses came in and took me to one of their birthing rooms. The staff was very friendly, but the on call doctor was a little 'strange'. She just seemed kind of out of it, like she was asleep. I think she was just an odd person, but very friendly.

Shortly after getting to the birthing room, they broke my water. At that point, the pain got very hard to handle. I asked the staff for an epidural. As we were waiting, I found something out that I shared with Brent and the nurse. I told them that it felt so much better during the contractions when I pushed. It took so much of the pain off the contraction and substituted it with manageable pressure. The nurse did not say anything to me about it, and left. About an hour after requesting the epidural, the anesthesiologist came in with his assistant. I was in pain, and do not remember anything about this time of the labour. I am completely blank and do not even remember the epidural being administered. Brent said that the anesthesiologist had trouble with the previous woman (that is why it took so long for them to get to me) and he had blood spattered on him, and he had his assistant performing the epidural. While she was trying to put it in, he was yelling at her. That is not an ideal situation, in my opinion.

Shortly after the epidural, I gave birth to my little Abigail Marie. She was born with dark hair, almost black.

The doctors wanted to keep an eye on her. Her bilirubin level was high. They said she was jaundiced and put her on a bililight. I was still kind of 'out of it' and the doctor said something about liver failure and a blood transfusion. I lost it and started crying. I know that they were trying to explain the worst case scenario, but I didn't understand what they were saying at that time. We took her home, and she spent the first week with a biliblanket. I somewhat joked that I had to plug my baby in, but I was actually battling depression at that time. I had a hard time bonding and I was frightened for her. She did great, though. She ate like a champ, and gained all her birth weight, plus some, back within two days of being home. We had a home nurse come and prick her little heal every day to check her bili level. It was sad, and hard to do, but she did great. After a week, the nurse said she was fine and didn't need the biliblanket anymore.

Friday, March 30, 2012

Upcoming Cloth Diaper Detergent Review


I am planning on doing a blog review on laundry detergents for cloth diapers.

I am so excited to start on this project! I have been cloth diapering for a year now. I have tried a few different detergents. Some I liked. Some I did not. Others I discovered I should not have been using on my cloth diapers.

This review is going to take a little time. I am going to separate my diapers out into groups, where I only wash those specific diapers with the detergent for those certain diapers.

Right now, my diapers are in need of some good detergent too. Over the year, they have been washed, soaked, stripped, sun dried, put through the drier, etc. They all now have a funky smell to them that I dislike. It is time for a good review to see which detergent works best.

Oh, and lets not forget that I have very hard water. The water is definately NOT helping anything here.

So... as of now, I have a sample of Planet (unscented) detergent, as well as Vaska (unscented and lavendar). I plan on getting some Rockin Green (Hard Rock), and Soap Nuts since I have heard great things about them.

I will post again when the review is getting close to being posted.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Prenatal Care Chart - Blank

This is what I used for my prenatal care with my last few pregnancies.

Jeans Diaper

So, I finished sewing my "scrap" diaper. I had a pair of my old favorite jeans. The butt ripped out, so they were trash. I just couldn't stand the thought of throwing them away. Sooo, as I mentioned in a previous post, I made a pattern, and cut out a diaper (and an extra for a pattern).

** Here's the link to the first post - http://ourbirthjourneys.blogspot.com/2012/01/what-big-pile-of.html **

I waited a while because I am out of snaps, my velcro is missing, and I don't have a chair for my sewing room. Well, I got tired of the diaper sitting there. I decided it didn't need snaps or velcro, and really, who needs a chair to sew!

I ditched the fleece inner liner that I was going to use. It gets so pilly so quickly. I pulled out my yummy soft minky, and cut out the new inner liner.

After sewing the entire thing hunkered over the sewing table (hubby came in and mentioned that it's no wonder my back always hurts), and with my 5, 3, and 2 year olds watching and "helping" by getting into all my stuff (LOL), I got it done.

Here it is! I'm so happy! I can't wait for Jacob to wear it when it's time to change him!

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

The Double Standard Of Birth Choices

I don't understand why people don't get upset when the choice to home birth with a midwife is stripped from a woman.

I can guarantee that if it was as difficult to find someone to assist a hospital birth, as it is in many states to find someone to assist a home birth, women nationwide would be up in arms! They would be livid that their choice to birth in the hospital was being taken from them.

Why is it okay to let the choice be hospital or unassisted birth? Isn't it safer to give women the ability to have a birth assistant at home, instead of forcing them into an unassisted birth if they aren't prepared, or aren't comfortable with going it alone?

Shouldn't we, as women, be fighting for the rights of each other? Fight for each other's birth choices, even if it's not our own? Why is there such a double standard?


**Disclaimer**
I have had my hospital, assisted home, and unassisted home births. I was put in the position of hospital or UC. I chose UC. I was prepared for it beforehand. It was amazing. :)

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

What A Big Pile Of... Updated With Link To Finished Product

Clothes! I have a bunch of old clothes. Torn up jeans, holey shirts, ragged sheets.

What to do with it all? Well...

I'm making diapers and cloth wipes. Yep! Either toss it or use it. I say, if I can't wear it, baby can.

I'm only in the cut out stage right now.

***Update***
Link to post about finishing up the diaper.

http://ourbirthjourneys.blogspot.com/2012/02/jeans-diaper.html

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Guest Post: A Birthing Center Story - Brett Vincent Woytek

On Tuesday February 8th, I woke up at 5am and couldn't go back to sleep. I was definitely feeling real contractions for the first time during this pregnancy. Later that morning, after getting Elle off to preschool, I started timing them. The contractions were very random... anywhere from 9-10 minutes apart to sometimes 25 minutes apart. Kyle and I went to walk around the outlet mall and have lunch. (A fun memory of that afternoon: We bought a few things at A Children's Place and the cashier lady asked me when I was due. When I told her "yesterday" and that I was in the start of labor, she was shocked and thought I looked too happy and relaxed for that to be true. She said "Don't you need to call your doctor or go somewhere!" After talking to her more, we found out that her daughter delivered at the Birthing Center and loved it! Also, when Kyle was getting us lunch at Freebird's, the guy making our burritos asked him if he had anything exciting going on. Kyle said "well, my wife is in labor out in the car!" The guy said he didn't expect anything THAT exciting! ha ha)

That afternoon, I called into Austin Area Birthing Center and talked to the midwife on call, Mary. (It just so happened that we had met all seven other midwives at our prenatal visits except for Mary simply because the scheduling didn't work out.) Mary said I was in prodromal labor (or some call it "false labor" although there is nothing really false about it). She suggested I relax and take a bath as the evening settles and even have a half glass of red wine if I wanted. Mary said the wine could help me get some sleep or it could jump start true labor. The timing of the contractions was not progressing but the intensity seemed to be, so after dinner I did as the midwife ordered. To my surprise, things started to pick up... and fast! (I thought this prodromal labor may go on forever and I was dreading not being able to sleep to rest up for the true labor that was still to come!) My contractions quickly grew closer.

By 8pm, I was in active labor (4-5 min apart), having very intense contractions. I did my best to use what we learned in our Birth by Nature classes to ease my mind, relax my body, and let the contractions do their work. (That was hard!) Kyle called his parents to pick up Elle. Elle was being so sweet though and wanted to be right by me. She was so curious about what Mommy was going through and I felt bad because she would ask me questions and during a contraction I could not answer her. Kyle also ran around the house and made sure that we had everything we needed in our bags and loaded into the car. Kyle called Mary and packed up the car and we were headed out at 11pm.

With Mary, we made the decision to go to Austin Area Birthing Center South, a beautiful brand new location for AABC. We had been warned of this chance the week prior since they are remodeling the birthing rooms at the North center. They had just painted and they warned any birthing mothers of the possible smell of paint fumes. We didn't want to chance that since my sense of smell is very sensitive. I was worried about the drive all the way to William Cannon and being comfortable during contractions in the car. It was hard since I couldn't move around at all and just had to sit there. I closed my eyes, hugged my pillow and used relaxation breathing like crazy! The contractions progressed to every 3 min on the way down there. I could also feel A LOT of pressure downward as if the baby was almost ready to be birthed!

We arrived at 11:40pm. Mary met us at the door and showed us the three rooms we could choose from since we were the first birthing couple that night. We chose the Austin Music Scene room and Kyle left to go to the car to get our bags. My first contraction at the center, I leaned over the bed and said that I felt like I needed to push. My water broke right there and Kyle came back in surprised! I kept feeling like I needed to push so Mary encouraged me and told Dana, the midwife assistant, to "prepare for birth". I was thinking, "oh my goodness, this is really happening!" I couldn't get comfortable and didn't know what position I wanted to be in. I suggested that I get into the tub for a water birth, but they told me there wasn't time to fill it! Things were really happening fast! (I think they turned the tub on to make me happy, but there truly was not enough time!) I pushed through every contraction for about 19 minutes and Brett was born at 12:04am!!! Mary and Dana were absolutely wonderful and encouraging, letting me know the baby's positioning through my pushing. I remember the best thing I heard was: "the next push might deliver your baby's head". I was so excited and pushed harder and longer than ever! Awesome, intense, and indescribable feelings!!

I look back and thank God over and over for the speed of my labor (4 hours total). I was hoping that we wouldn't arrive at the birthing center and still have hours and hours to go. Things truly worked out perfectly to welcome Brett into the world. After he was born, he was immediately put onto my chest and Mary and Dana did everything to make sure he was okay. He was perfect!

The next several hours consisted of making sure Mommy and Baby were okay. AABC was such a relaxed environment. Loved it! And, since everything went perfectly, and Brett and I were completely healthy and doing very well after his birth, the AABC wants you to be in the comfort of your own home. We left the center at around 7am to make the trip home!

It was Austin's second ice storm of the season that morning. The temperature outside was in the 20s and we had to wait for ice all over our car to melt. Along with the other cars on the highway, we drove slowly home. Brett slept all the way home and didn't make a peep. When Elle came to the center to meet Brett with Papaw and Mamaw, she stayed with us and fell asleep after the excitement wore down. (Another blog post about Elle meeting Brett for the first time!) She also slept all the way home.

What an unforgettable night!

Brett Vincent Woytek
February 9, 2011
12:04 am
8 lbs 15 oz
22 inches